I don’t know how my sister will take this. I am in love with her husband and I don’t feel guilty about it. I have tried for a long time to fight this but it’s not working.
My sister is a kind and hardworking woman but she treats her husband badly because he doesn’t have money. She talks trash him anyhow, treats him like her houseboy and this breaks my heart.
I am 22 years old and in the university. I am being sponsored through school by my sister but I don’t like the way she treats her husband. She doesn’t respect him as the head of the family because he’s laid back.
My sister’s husband finds it hard to hold down a job. She gave him money to go into business several times but the businesses fold up after some months.
One day, my sister insulted her husband so much in my presence that I challenged her. I told her it was bad of her to be talking to him like that because he doesn’t have money.
My sister slapped me. Since that day, our relationship became strained. I no longer see her as that big sister who was my inspiration and idol.
Over time, my sister’s husband warned up to me. He started telling me things about their marriage that surprised me. He told me my sister had cheated on him many times because she was the breadwinner and he keeps tolerating her excesses because he loves her.
I felt bad for him. For over seven years that I have known my sister’s husband, he hasn’t raised his voice or his hands on my sister even though she disrespects him, disobeys his decisions and insults him at will before family and friends.
One day while my sister was away, her husband and I talked a lot till it was late at night. One thing led to another and we kissed. He is a good kisser and he was gentle with me. We had sex thrice before daybreak.
Since then, we have been having a relationship without anybody’s knowledge and my sister doesn’t suspect anything. I have fallen in love with this man but I don’t know how to tell my sister.
I don’t even know how to explain this to people without being judged but I know what I am feeling. This man treats me better than my sister does and we want to be with each other.
I don’t feel guilty for falling in love with my sister’s husband because of the way my sister disrespects him. I want to know how to tell her what is happening between her husband and I without problems.”
Me: You are just an ungrateful child. You have betrayed your sister with her husband and you are giving excuses for your irresponsible behaviour. Tell your sister and deal with the consequences. You and her jobless husband deserve each other. Rubbish.