OUR GRANDPAS HAD ‘SIDE CHICKS’. AND WILL REMAIN WITH HUMANITY.
(If you are a moralist, especially female, this post may not be for you).
In those days, mothers and grannies knew their hubbies’ “ales” (concubines). Call them side chicks today. In fact, they knew the day the “ale” would be coming to farm to collect food stuffs. They would respect themselves and won’t go to farm that day.
“I am going out o”, baba would announce.
“Are you still coming back?” Mama would ask.
“No. You may lock your door.”
Case closed. Mama knew where her hubby would spend the night. Before he came back following morning, his food was ready. And it won’t be poisoned!
At times, you would bring home a lady or guy from your hometown and your mum would say never, you can’t marry him or her and she would never tell you why. She would do everything to separate you guys.
She had her reasons. That lady or guy was sired by your father. Mother knew but won’t tell you until much, much later!
Your uncle (daddy’s elder brother) would die and daddy would simply “take over” his wife and mama would politely oblige!
I can hear many if you, especially, women saying: “THIS IS RUBBISH!” “ABSOLUTE NONSENSE!” “ORO RIRUN!” “I CAN NEVER TAKE THESE!” “GOD FORBID BAD THING!” “WE WILL ALL DIE THERE!”
NINE out of TEN of those our mothers knew what to do to make life miserable for both hubby and “ale”. They could have easily killed them. They could have walked away and abandon their kids.
But they knew the implication of broken homes. It was the indignities they suffered and endured that made their children what they later became in life.
If they didn’t suffer these “nonsenses”, their kids would not even go to school.
While we are living in a DIFFERENT society from theirs, it was not by accident that many of them lived to be 80, 85, 95, 100.
Yet, those of us who now have access to the best life can offer hardly live to be 65!
Granny lived to be 98. But her granddaughter died at 50! Cause of death: high blood pressure! Mama’s cause of death: old age-related diseases.
Peace of mind is optional.
Let the side chick versus wife debate continue:
AND IT IS AS OLD AS HUMANITY!
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