Infidelity can kill a relationship or serve as a wake-up call.
The answer to this question depends on whether you want it to be over or not. For some, infidelity—sexual or emotional—is a deal-breaker.
Trust is shattered, healing is impossible, and walking away is the only choice. For others, it’s a devastating but not deathly blow. Infidelity can kill a relationship or serve as a wake-up call and provide an opportunity to make healthy changes that will sustain it for the long term.
If you love your partner and want to stay committed, it’s crucial to realize this: you get to choose how you feel and react.
You can be angry, mean, and vengeful. You can add to the pain and widen the wound. Or you can acknowledge your hurt and approach the problem with the goal of healing.
The choice—and there’s no right or wrong one—is yours.
The black magic that locks cheating spouses while in the act is real.
You may call it penis captivus, a medical condition in which a woman’s vagina becomes engorged, trapping the penis during sexual intercourse. A situation, which health experts say, is easily resolved once the woman’s muscles relax, releasing the penis.
But that is not the situation for people in most African societies, who believe that black magic (supernatural powers or magic for evil and selfish purposes) is the cause. In such cases, no one is able to separate the couple unless the partner behind the magic intervenes or a medicine man is notified.
This is very prevalent in cultures within African countries like Kenya, South Africa, and Uganda. Over the years, several couples have been found stuck during the act, drawing crowds of curious onlookers who gather in anticipation of seeing the couple. Usually, the police would later intervene to restore order.
This year, Ugandans were shocked after such an incident happened at a hotel in the eastern part of the country.
A hotel staff found the couple struggling to separate after sex. It is reported that the man’s wife had asked a witch doctor to place a spell on her husband’s manhood.
In South Africa, this spell is known as muthi but is often placed on the woman. It is made to ensure that if someone other than the husband tries to have sex with her, he will remain stuck until the husband returns.
In Kenya, there are two types of this black magic for married couples:
“There is one that makes the man’s member go lame every time he is with a woman who isn’t his wife. The woman can apply the potion on the man’s member, others put it in food or rub it in the man’s boxers,” according to Martin Mulwa, a lawyer from Kenyan town, Ukambani.
“The second type is the one which a woman or man applies on the boxers or panties of the spouse and when either engages in extramarital sex, they get stuck. The antidote has to come from a real medicine man because there are a lot of fake specialists.”
There are still talks as to whether couples getting stuck is a myth or reality. But for a majority of Africans, this black magic is real and has come to stay, exposing cheating spouses.
Here is a video of some a couple who were caught stuck in the act in what was believed to be the result of black magic:
Cheating husband and sister-in-law caught stuck in the act.
The above happened in Kenya, when a father of five was found stuck while having sex with his sister-in-law at a hotel in town. The two were found entangled in a bed, screaming in pain. The incident drew people to the scene until the police were called in to restore order.